Thanksgiving is a time of reflection on what matters most in our lives. It’s not a time to worry or stress. But it’s a time to tell loved ones how much we love them. It’s a time to spend with friends and family to show how much we appreciate them.
As singles, we sometimes choose to reflect on our singleness during this time of year instead of our blessings. One year, I chose this means of reflection instead of reflecting on God’s goodness in my life.
I thought of my children not being with me and how my friends all had people coming to their homes for dinner.
As a result, I allowed the enemy to thrust me into a self-pity party and that particular Thanksgiving was the worst.
From that experience, I learned to never complain and be ungrateful during this time of year. Instead, I decided to choose to enjoy my singleness and all that it entails.
The following year, I had to work on Thanksgiving. Instead of choosing to wallow in ungratefulness, I cooked a big pan of chicken and dressing and baked a red velvet cake to share with my coworkers at work.
I received so many compliments on how much they enjoyed the food and the cake. My heart was overwhelmed by the love and support my coworkers shared with me.
Life is about choices. We can choose to make the most of our singleness. If friends and family invite you for dinner, go. Don’t sit at home while open invitations for getting stuffed await you.
If you have to spend Thanksgiving at work, choose to be grateful for a job and enjoy the time you have with coworkers.
If you have to spend this Thanksgiving alone, do something good for yourself like:
1. Cook yourself the best meal you’ve had all year including something sweet. If you have leftovers, take them into work and share with coworkers.
2. Some of the best movies open on Thanksgiving day. Find one that you’ve been waiting to see, get a big bucket of popcorn and candy, a frozen drink and enjoy!
3. Invite other single friends over for a potluck. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. If you don’t have all the fixings, it’s ok. It’s the time spent with others that matters most.
4. Many of the best Christmas and Thanksgiving movies come on TV on Thanksgiving day that will surely put you in a warm, holiday mood. I have my dvr set to record my favorite shows for tonight…including Charlie Brown’s Thanksgiving. Yes, I still love seeing Snoopy cook a meal for his friends and family.
5. I’m frugal when it comes to spending money, so I would never advise shopping that will increase your debt. However, if you can afford to spend a little money, many stores and even malls will open tonight around 8 pm.
I admit that I like being out in all the shopping frenzy. It seems to add to the holiday excitement for me.
6. Give yourself a break! Take a bubble bath, drink some warm apple cider, and just relax.
7. Most importantly, remember that Thanksgiving is a day of reflection. Remind yourself of what matters most to you in life.
What are you most thankful for?
Breath in your body, new mercies every morning, family, friends, the love of God?
As for me, I’m thankful for:
the unconditional love of Jesus Christ
my 3 adult children and wonderful granddaughter
my siblings, no matter how far away
and for my closest friends.
Have a wonderful, blessed Thanksgiving!
May His love overwhelm you,